Re: The ERLC Conference I posted about earlier this month“Every speech and panel repeated the motif over and over: Jesus helped the weak. Jesus welcomed the outcast. Jesus blessed the little children. Jesus called sinners to repent. Jesus will judge evildoers.” God wins!

“Jesus walked away or let others walk away for a variety of reasons.” Gary Thomas outlines these in his new book, When to Walk Away. He warns that toxicity (what you should walk away from) is not synonymous with difficult people or circumstances. Jesus came to “to seek and to save the lost” (Luke 19:10), and the lost are difficult people in difficult circumstances by definition. Toxic people are difficult, but in a soul-killing, relationship-destroying way. Toxic people excel in at least one of three things: “a murderous spirit, a controlling nature, and a heart that loves hate.”  Above taken… Continue reading →

Abuse and respect are opposites. Abusers are far more conscious of what they are doing than they appear to be. However, even their less-conscious behaviors are driven by their core attitudes.

Betrayal/infidelity is NEVER the fault of the spouse. It is a always a selfish, abusive choice made by the adulterer.

Today, October 15th, is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Day, (in the midst of Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness month.) Today, I honor the memory of my sweet baby girl, who was gone way too soon, as well as my other 2 babes I never got to meet. Although this month I am mainly highlighting Domestic Abuse Awareness month, this other loss is important to honor also. Grief comes in many varieties. I remember in the beginning of my divorce, from an adulterous, abusive, arrogant man, that I learned that the grief of losing your marriage can be 100 times… Continue reading →

Projection is a common form of abuse used by narcissistic abusers, blaming the victim for what they themselves are guilty of doing.

Abuse, adultery, addiction and abandonment have broken the homes and lives of the wives and children. Escaping those to get healthy and raise children in a healthy environment is not the broken part. It is creating a better, healthy, and freely whole life!

Boundaries are a huge issue in abuse. Some infer that the victim isn’t setting boundaries, and if they’d just set boundaries, the abuser would know he couldn’t cross the line and would stop. This is not true in most cases. Many abusers not only throw temper tantrums in the face of boundaries, but also see boundaries as a dare to violate them, and ramp up abuse when boundaries are set. Boundaries are definitely needed, but not at the cost of your safety.