You may be asked to believe the unbelievable about an abusive situation, you would have never dreamed to be happening. Truth is not always what appears openly. You don’t know what’s been done behind closed doors. It takes great courage for an abuse survivor to open up to anyone. Be honored that she has trusted you enough to tell you. Believe Her Friends . . . most of the women I know who have bravely left a man who was killing them on the inside emotionally and mentally are intelligent and loving human beings. Look at their track record. Look at their character…. Continue reading →

Re: The ERLC Conference I posted about earlier this month“Every speech and panel repeated the motif over and over: Jesus helped the weak. Jesus welcomed the outcast. Jesus blessed the little children. Jesus called sinners to repent. Jesus will judge evildoers.” God wins!

“Jesus walked away or let others walk away for a variety of reasons.” Gary Thomas outlines these in his new book, When to Walk Away. He warns that toxicity (what you should walk away from) is not synonymous with difficult people or circumstances. Jesus came to “to seek and to save the lost” (Luke 19:10), and the lost are difficult people in difficult circumstances by definition. Toxic people are difficult, but in a soul-killing, relationship-destroying way. Toxic people excel in at least one of three things: “a murderous spirit, a controlling nature, and a heart that loves hate.”  Above taken… Continue reading →

Abuse and respect are opposites. Abusers are far more conscious of what they are doing than they appear to be. However, even their less-conscious behaviors are driven by their core attitudes.

Betrayal/infidelity is NEVER the fault of the spouse. It is a always a selfish, abusive choice made by the adulterer.

Today, October 15th, is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Day, (in the midst of Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness month.) Today, I honor the memory of my sweet baby girl, who was gone way too soon, as well as my other 2 babes I never got to meet. Although this month I am mainly highlighting Domestic Abuse Awareness month, this other loss is important to honor also. Grief comes in many varieties. I remember in the beginning of my divorce, from an adulterous, abusive, arrogant man, that I learned that the grief of losing your marriage can be 100 times… Continue reading →

Projection is a common form of abuse used by narcissistic abusers, blaming the victim for what they themselves are guilty of doing.

Abuse, adultery, addiction and abandonment have broken the homes and lives of the wives and children. Escaping those to get healthy and raise children in a healthy environment is not the broken part. It is creating a better, healthy, and freely whole life!