Abuse is not a marriage problem, it is the abusers problem. Marriage counseling will not solve the problem. Liberty – freely whole

Many times women in abusive marriages live in confusion. They know they aren’t being treated loving, kind, or right, but due to manipulation, gaslighting, blame shifting, etc. they are left confused. Covert, hidden abuse is a pattern of behaviors, like the straws on a camel’s back. One instance isn’t always seen as abuse (if it is covert, not physically violent), but repeated patterns show it to be the abuse it is. Part of the abuse cycle, includes times of behavior that are not “mean”, and adds to the confusion. There are several assessments available that she can take to get… Continue reading →

Abuse, even “hidden” not physical violence, destroys health, not only creating emotional trauma But also tearing down physical health. “The Body Keeps the Score”. Liberty ~ freely whole

He doesn’t have to physically beat you for it to be abuse. 😢 Liberty ~ freely whole

“Did you know that about half of divorces in the U.S. are for very serious reasons? (A pattern of adultery, physical violence, emotional manipulation and coercion, severe addictions, abandonment or neglect.) No one ever told us this. “Shocking but true: We don’t have a divorce crisis in the U.S. (The divorce rate is almost as low as it was 50 years ago. The high was in the 1980s.) “We have a “marriage-endangering sin crisis.” If every spouse stopped committing adultery, using violence or intimidation to get what they want, and stopped abusing drugs/alcohol, our divorce rate would drop like a… Continue reading →

Once again, October is here and it’s time to bring awareness to the tragedy of domestic abuse. It’s a subject that most would prefer to turn away from, to pretend doesn’t exist, or at least not in their circles. But that is far from the truth. It not only is a tragedy, it is way too prevalent in our society, rich as well as poor families, churchgoing families as well as drug dealers and drunks, even homeschool families. Abuse has no demographic. Please take some time this month to learn more about what domestic abuse is, and what it effects… Continue reading →

Rejoice with me as I celebrate another accomplishment that I never thought I’d have, nor wanted to. Yesterday I graduated and received certification for training in a ministry I never in an million years thought I’d have, nor desired. It just wasn’t on my radar as something I was working toward or wanting to do. I became certified as an abuse survivor advocate. Even when I was offered a place in the course, I argued with God. I know it is a much needed ministry, “but God, it’s not MY ministry”. I obviously ended up enrolling. It was a hard… Continue reading →