Many times women in abusive marriages live in confusion. They know they aren’t being treated loving, kind, or right, but due to manipulation, gaslighting, blame shifting, etc. they are left confused.
Covert, hidden abuse is a pattern of behaviors, like the straws on a camel’s back. One instance isn’t always seen as abuse (if it is covert, not physically violent), but repeated patterns show it to be the abuse it is. Part of the abuse cycle, includes times of behavior that are not “mean”, and adds to the confusion. There are several assessments available that she can take to get a clearer idea of what is going on.
Called to Peace is one organization that offers a free assessment online. If you are questioning whether your marriage/relationship is just disappointing, or truly destructive to you and abusive, check it out here.
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