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Safety–Exit Plan (Part 4)

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The following is the first part in a series of articles that are each segments from the Freely Whole Safety–Exit Plan. The entire formatted, as checklists, document can be downloaded for Free here. I’ve broken it into parts for posting as articles. Part 1 can be read here. Safety and Exit Plan Part 4 Budget Considerations I’ve decided to add this category to this document, since it is info you will also need when filing for divorce/separation. Much of it can be determined from the above documents (in previous articles or the full document). But some women have never be a… Continue reading →

Safety–Exit Plan (Part 3)

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The following is the first part in a series of articles that are each segments from the Freely Whole Safety–Exit Plan. The entire formatted, as checklists, document can be downloaded for Free here. I’ve broken it into parts for posting as articles. Part 1 can be read here. Safety and Exit Plan Part 3 Safety and Security Considerations When you need to do each these things may differ, depending on your situation, and legal advice for it. But do them as soon as you can–safely and legally. Go to Free Download for full document, or Part 4 of this article… Continue reading →

Safety–Exit Plan (Part 2)

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The following is the second part in a series of articles that are each segments from the Freely Whole Safety–Exit Plan. The entire formatted, as checklists, document can be downloaded for Free here. Or I’ve broken it into parts for posting as articles here. Part 1 can be read here. Safety and Exit Plan Part 2 Documents to Gather For some of these you will need originals, others you can photocopy if needed, to avoid suspicion. Get all of them for yourself, and your children if applicable, also for all joint accounts, and info for his individual ones if you… Continue reading →

Safety–Exit Plan (Part 1)

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The following is the first part in a series of articles that are each segments from the Freely Whole Safety–Exit Plan. The entire formatted, as checklists, document can be downloaded for Free here. I’ve broken it into parts for posting as articles. Safety and Exit Plan Part 1 This Safety and Exit Plan was compiled based on my deep-dive research and information I found when I was going through and needing this. Some online, some in talking with others. (Sorry, I don’t have references.) Every resource I found differed, granted with overlapping similarities in some. But there were additional things… Continue reading →

Domestic Abuse Awareness

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October is DV Awareness Month. Don’t turn a blind eye to abuse. Yes, the month is almost half gone. Yes, I’ve mentioned it in a previous post. Yes, I’ve been posting about it daily on social media—educational info, how you can help, how you can get safe, heal, and live free. Yes, I chose to not just repeat all of my past posts about this that are already here. You’ll find them all here by clicking the #DVAM tag. DV is not just what many stereotypically believe—drunken beatings.Do you recognize red flags of abuse? Check out my daily posts on… Continue reading →

Called to Comfort

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Called to Comfort—Decades ago, 2 Corinthians 1:4 became a mission verse for me in mentoring and coaching others. Throughout my life as I’ve gone through hard things, God has sent others to me that needed comfort, hope, wise counsel from His unchanging Word. This mixed media Faith Art journal page illustrates that. Continue reading →

Narcissistic Abuse Awareness

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Today isn’t a national celebration day. But it is a day to remind everyone to be aware of, learn, what abuse—even hidden abuse—is and to support abuse survivors. Survivors, you are seen and heard. ❤️‍🩹 Hidden abuse is just as, sometimes more, damaging than physical abuse. But the wounds aren’t seen. So are many times dismissed, excused, minimized, brushed under the rug. Educate yourself to recognize red flags 🚩 of abuse. Free mini course from Wilderness to Wild. Do something today.

Egypt to Shiloh

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Many times I liken our journey out of a destructive marriage to the Exodus from Egypt. (And no, we most likely will not receive “riches” on our way out.) Rather, it compares in the trust we have to have in God as we do what we know we need to. The waters will be stormy and scary as we start crossing out. The enemy may pursue—perhaps with ‘sweet words’ like Pharoah, “sure I’ll let you go” and then fighting it every step of the way. Some sisters may complain and want to go back, thinking things were much better when… Continue reading →

Rocking R&R

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Survivors need self/soul care, to heal and rebuild. And being out in God’s Creation is a great natural, rest giving healer! This is the view of a little R&R from my porch rocking chair on the Lord’s Day morning, at the Called to Peace ministries abuse survivors Retreat that I attended in NC this past week. The clouds that stayed low on the mountains, all of yesterday, have rolled out. The rain last night only leaves its scent. The sun in shining. The birds are chirping. Beautiful peace. Take care of you, sisters, so you can be freely whole! Or… Continue reading →

Celebrating A Very Special Survivor

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Today I honor a very special abuse and se*ually betrayed survivor. My mama! ❤️💖❤️ My mom, like most women in her era, did not talk openly about her pain, abuse experiences, or divorce. The were no post-divorce therapists. Divorced women hopefully had friends, usually 1 or 2 close friends who were probably also divorcees, in whom they could confide. There was no healing path. Many were still grieving or hurt or without clarity 20 or 30 years later. Many remarried—2, 3, or 4 times, only getting back into the same situations. The damage never resolved. Thankfully, my mom remarried a… Continue reading →